Tuesday, 26 February 2013

Why I don’t want to write about sisterhood

 

Warning – somewhat pitiful post …

 2013 twixt downs and sea  berries

Sisterhood…friendship.

Suddenly my dashboard was full of encouraging, lovely stories of friendship and sisterhood. And I’m thinking to myself – this is obviously something all other Christian ladies do. And it sounds amazing.

Then I found an invitation to write about it. Well, I don’t want to.

If I went back ten years, I could write about the lovely Christian friends I had when my boys were little. We went to each other’s houses, shared meals, prayed together. And now, writing about this is bringing back memories of all those good times. The lovely woman who befriended me when I recommitted my life to Christ, the one who started a coffee group for new stay at home mums, the one who invited us to Sunday lunch, minded my baby while I worked at the church playgroup.

Then I moved towns. I started work. I joined a church where people just turned up Sunday. And somewhere along the line I decided I didn’t ‘do’ friends anymore. So I didn’t. And actually, I kind of took pride in it. Told myself I was avoiding being let down. Because I had been… let down. Also put upon, taken advantage of, used.  To borrow Alecia's words 'I had relegated myself to a party of one'.

I still did my service, my volunteering,  helped. Just avoided the friend bit.

But just recently I’ve started to think that I might be wrong.

So, I’m reading all those stories of sisterhood and companionship and remembering how good it felt when I was asked out to coffee, round to someone’s house to talk, what a blessing those women gave me. It’s not so easy without the babies, and I’m still afraid of the hurt, but this is the year when I want to be intentional about how I use my time, so I’m going to try for a bit of sisterhood.

10 comments:

  1. Come on over ... I'll put the kettle on.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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    1. thank you Glenda, you are a great example of that sisterhood thing. Can we have some of your scones?

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  2. It can be hard to seek friendships again when one has been hurt...glad to read you are giving it another try...Thanks for an honest post :) praying you find some kindred sisters...

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    1. thank you Dolly - for your understanding and encouragement.

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  3. I will gladly make a coffee cake! I had a friend who changed churches. She said she would be glad to eat popcorn and sit on the floor if someone would just invite her over. That was years ago, but I never forgot it. Praying God brings you special friends!

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    1. loving the popcorn on the floor image, thank you for your words.

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  4. I just want to wrap my arms around you, invite you for tea (with Glenda, too, of course) and just rediscover how God wanted sisters in Christ to be. I am so grateful that you give us this chance, to love you the best we can. Have you thought of joining an SDG small group? email me at jenfergie2000@me.com if you would like to!

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  5. Thank you for sharing! And welcome to our small group! Can't wait to "meet" you!! Just thought I'd say "hi", I'm just peeking around at your blog:-)

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